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Build a Strong Bond with Your Dog

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by shibashake 32 Comments

Many of us love our dogs very much. However, to establish a strong bond, love alone is not enough. We also need to inject a good dose of rules and structure.

To bond with a dog, it is important to establish ourselves as pack leader. We need to teach our dog what are good dog behaviors, and what are bad dog behaviors; according to us humans.

Our human laws primarily protect people and not dogs, therefore it is up to us to protect our furry best friend from situations that may cause him harm. This includes running into traffic, accidentally biting people because of unrestrained playfulness, or dog aggression.

It is also important to do regular joint activity with our dog, including daily exercise, dog play, obedience training, and grooming. Finally, communication is crucial in the bonding process. I always try to listen to what my dog is trying to tell me, so that I can make sound decisions based on his temperament, level of tolerance, as well as his likes and dislikes.

Man getting licks and affection from a Siberian Husky and Shiba Inu (close-up). Great bonding picture.
How to Bond with Your Dog.

1. Redirect our dog’s energies into productive pursuits

Siberian Husky running with man, while holding flirt pole toy in mouth.
1. Redirect our dog’s energies into productive pursuits.
Siberian Husky inspecting a bubble machine on the grass.
Husky Shania having supervised fun with a bubble machine.

Shiba Inu working on fish egg-baby soft toy, Siberian Husky with nose inside squirrel egg-baby soft toy.
Make our dog work for all of his food.

Most dogs naturally love running, chasing, chewing everything, jumping, smelling, eating poop, eating everything else, and rolling in smelly stuff.

These dog behaviors lead to chewed up expensive shoes, mud on designer clothing, torn upholstery, and a variety of other delights that may tickle our dog’s fancy, when left on his own. A good way to deal with these bad dog behaviors is to redirect our dog into positive and productive pursuits –

  • Play controlled running and chasing games with him. Some examples include recall training, hide and seek, and flirt pole.
  • Get good and safe chew toys. I frequently press cheese bits onto my dog’s chew toys, which entices him to work on them with even more gusto! We can also try soaking appropriate chew toys in chicken broth, to give them an appealing scent.
  • Make our dog work for all of his food through interactive toys, training, handling, or grooming.
  • Do obedience training or dog sports, so that he gets to jump, run, and compete in a people-friendly way.
  • Walk our dog every day on a loose leash, so that he gets to explore and smell interesting environments.
  • I hand-feed my dogs during these activities to further establish trust.

To build a strong bond, we must not only consider what we desire of our dog, but also how we can fulfill our dog’s desires.

For example, my Shiba Inu does not like taking baths in the shower stall, because he does not like the confined environment, the cold surfaces, or having water poured all over his body. Therefore, instead of giving him a regular bath, I play the water hose game with him. He does not usually like getting wet, but he is very happy to get totally soaked for this chasing game. He will even take intermittent breaks for a washcloth scrub-down.

By making bathing into a game, I get to engage in a fun activity with my dog, as well as accomplish a previously unpleasant task with no stress, no physical force, and lots of laughs.

Man holding water hose playing with a dog who is jumping up to catch the water stream in his mouth.
By making bathing into a game, I get to accomplish a previously unpleasant task with no stress, no physical force, and lots of laughs.

2. To gain a dog’s respect, we must be calm, consistent, and fair

Girl sitting on grass and rewarding her two dogs (Shiba Inu and Siberian Husky) with chicken treats.
2. Always be calm, consistent and fair with our dog.

Be calm – Do not yell or respond in anger. A dog is more likely to stay calm and listen to us, if we are also calm.

Be consistent – Do not give a dog affection one day for getting on the bed, and punish him the next day for doing the same thing; even though he may have muddy paws. If we want to prevent a muddy bed incident, then teach our dog *not* to jump on furniture, and reward him well for resting on the floor.

Be fair – Do not punish him for failing to perform a command, if he does not understand what we want. Dogs are not born with an understanding of human language. It is up to us, to learn how to communicate with our dog, teach him how to communicate with us, and teach him our human rules.

When we are calm, consistent, and fair, our dog will feel safe, because he will always know what to expect from us, and what we expect from him in return. On the other hand, anger and frustration will lead to confusion and stress in our dog, which makes it difficult to learn or build a healthy relationship.

Do not be fearful of our dog. A dog can easily sense fear, and he will become uncertain and fearful himself because of it. Fear indicates a lack of trust in our dog, and frequently, a lack of trust in ourselves. In particular, we fear what our dog may do, and we fear that we will not be able to stop him.

To build a strong and healthy bond –

  • Establish a consistent set of verbal commands and hand gestures to communicate with our dog.
  • Establish a consistent set of rules that we enforce in a consistent way.
  • Establish a consistent routine and schedule for his various dog activities.
Husky and Shiba Inu presented with their peanut butter Birthday cake.
Establish a consistent set of rules that we enforce in a consistent way.

Smiling Shiba Inu eating cake with Siberian Husky
Rules are useful because they add structure to our human-dog relationship.

Some dog trainers suggest that a healthy bond is based on conducting certain dominance rituals, such as always walking ahead of our dog, going through entrances first, and eating before him.

Some of these rules are useful not because they are dominance rituals, but simply because they add structure to our human-dog relationship.

In fact, the actual rules do not usually matter much, as long they help to define some boundaries and routine for our dog.

Rules do not magically build a strong bond or make us into a respected leader. If we try to enforce our rules with angry or fearful energy, and without proper communication, our dog will likely get frustrated and his behavior will become more erratic.

Shiba Inu resting next to Siberian Husky chewing on a toy bone (on red carpet).
To build a strong bond with our dog we must not only look to what we desire but also how we can fulfill our dog’s desires.

3. Leadership through the control of resources

Girl hugging Siberian Husky during a walk, with Shiba Inu lying in the background.
3. Build a bond that is based on mutual respect.

Many proponents of aversive dog training argue that it is not possible to achieve a healthy bond, without using dominance techniques and physical force.

According to them, we must show the dog who is boss, and force him to comply with every single one of our commands. Failure to do so will result in a swift physical correction, which may be a leash jerk, finger poke, muzzle slap, or alpha roll.

They claim that these methods are especially important for stubborn and strong willed dogs, because they will not respond to a well meaning but soft owner, who chooses not to engage in a physical contest with his dog.

All this is FALSE.

The best way to build a strong bond with a dog, and to become a good leader, is to stay away from brute force physical techniques.

In a true physical contest, we can be sure that our dog will win. He is faster and more agile. He has sharp teeth, a strong jaw, claws, and thick skin to protect himself. Trying to achieve leadership through physical dominance is misguided at best, and may encourage dog aggression at worst. If we see a group of stray dogs eating our garbage, do we walk up to them and try to wrestle them to the ground? I think not – and we should not do that to our own dog either.

We can build a bond that is based on pain and fear, but it is much better to build a bond that is based on mutual respect.

Girl training three dogs using rewards (group shot).
Leadership through the control of resources.
Hand-feeding Shiba Inu (reward dog training).
We are already natural leaders to our dogs.

Shiba Inu playing tug on a flirt pole. Siberian Husky standing nearby.
We can use play to motivate our dog to follow rules.

The fact is, we are already natural leaders to our dogs because we have control over their most prized resources, including food, shelter, toys, access to pack members, access to interesting locations, and access to other dogs. To establish ourselves as leader, we simply need to teach our dogs this fact, through the Nothing in Life is Free (NILIF) program.

With NILIF, our dog has to do something for us, before he gets something in return. Any bullying will be ignored, or will result in the removal of a resource. With this program, our dog quickly learns that the simplest and fastest way to get what he wants, is by following our rules.

Even in wolf packs, a strong and confident alpha pair will tolerate a fair amount of misbehavior from subordinates. They save their strength and attention for more direct challenges, which center around resource control, e.g. mating rights or food rights.

A strong leader has no need to always force compliance, because he is confident that when it counts, he can easily command compliance.

Be a confident and benevolent leader of the pack, not a tyrant.

Shiba Inu in front, smiling with tongue out. Girl smiling and sitting with Siberian Husky in the back.
Be a confident and benevolent leader of the pack.

4. Gain our dog’s trust

Siberian Husky puppy kisses.
4. Gain our dog’s trust.

Receiving love from a dog is very different from earning his trust.

Dogs have an immense capacity to love, but it takes a lot more work to earn their trust. Yet, this is an extremely worthwhile endeavor because once we have a dog’s trust, we will create a deeper bond and bring about a happy, well-balanced, well-behaved, canine friend.

Husky Puppy doing a handshake.
Trust is acquired by always looking out for our dog’s best interest.

Trust is acquired by always looking out for our dog’s best interest.

Being inconsistent with our dog, or using forceful training techniques, can destroy that trust.

We usually focus on ourselves; our need for love, and our feelings of embarrassment when our dog misbehaves.

To gain a dog’s trust, just focus on doing what is best for him, without expecting anything in return.

If we can do this, the returns will surely come.

I protect my dogs from external threats, or perceived external threats. It does not matter whether the threat is real or not. As long as my dog perceives it to be a threat, and is stressed by it, I step in and protect him.

Sometimes, being a good caretaker also means we must protect our dog from himself.

If our dog is over-weight and loves to eat, we should put him on a strict diet so that he does not develop health problems down the road. If our dog loves to run and chase, make sure to have him on a leash so that he does not run into traffic.

Visit the vet at least once every year, for a health check-up, vaccination shots, and teeth cleaning (if needed).

Siberian Husky Shania lying down in the living room and looking pensive.
Sometimes, we must protect our dog from himself.

Bonding with Your Dog

Bonding with our dog is a give and take process.

Our dog is willing to do commands, endure hugs, walk on a leash, and comply with many other human rules and restrictions that he would never do in the wild.

In return, we should try to understand our dog, and fulfill his needs to the best of our abilities.

Why physically punish a dog for being fearful of bathing, when we can make the experience fun, pleasant, and less stressful, by turning it into a game?

If we give our dog the best that we have to give, he will give us his best in return, and that is when we form a strong and enduring bond.

Whole pack hanging-out and singing Kumbaya in the backyard (group shot).
Bonding with our dog is a give and take process.

Comments

  1. Jax says

    August 14, 2019 at 8:44 am

    Dear shiba shake (awsome name by the way ) I love your articles but can you Wright something on if your dog runs away my dog pickle has 2 other dogs in the backyard we play frisbee but he just loves to escape we can’t use an electronic fence without tearing up our yard and we think he jumps we have a creek and we think he might swim there

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  2. Charissa says

    November 5, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    I have a border collie lab and when ever I try to play with her she runs away

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  3. Cristal says

    August 4, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    I just read your arrival and it was really informative! I have two Alaskan Klee Kai’s Sasha is about 9 months old and Hunter is about five months old. Sasha is super skittish even around me. I and my fiancΓ© Mark are there “Mom and Dad” Hunter is very loving and loves to sleep on top of me and Follow me around wherever I go. He gets so upset if I leave him home to run an errand. I’ll come home and have to console him. He cries like a tiny baby!! I feel like Sasha has always been more stand offish and unaffected by our absence. She has however, been a bit more interested in U.S. Ever since Hunter came around.
    My concerns are in the way Sasha behaves as if we’re going to strike her when we go in for a loving pet! I’ll get down on her level or offer a treat. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong? I think at times I do spoil them BOTH because after reading this I realized I offered reward bad doggy behavior with food. One example Hunter is always on top of me (I don’t mind this) but when I eat Hunter looks at me with that look!!! And he cries like a baby and it breaks my heart He makes me feel so bad, and so I let him have a small bite of whatever I’m eating unless it’s not good for him. I will give him a small treat so he stops the crying! I know this is wrong but am unsure how to handle his little fits!!
    My next issue is also with Hunter!! He is so crazy about teething and when I give him a bone I will also give Sasha a bone. I do this to be fair but it doesn’t matter if Hunter has his own identical bone he wants SASHAS!! If I switch Them around he wants whatever one she goes for and he wants his too!! I try putting him on the bed and Sasha will go under the bed(her favorite spot) or on the floor bit to no avail!! He will make his way to Sasha and make his Tasmania devil noises and let’s just say no one has quiet or a bone to chew!! I would love to know a remedy for this!! Some guidance or things I NEED to do to correct this behavior!!
    I really don’t know what to do to get these behaviors to stop. I do have a fence in yard and they have free run of the house. They go in and out as they please and I’m not sure if that’s good for them or counter productive? We do go on nice walks with my Mom and her two dogs and my sisters two dogs. We bring them to my moms all the time to play with there gods and they love that!! We walk to the river an they swim and play and really enjoy that!! I really want to make sure I’m raising my babies right!! I want to train them the way that will benefit them the most! I know I am too emotional and I tend to spoil and reward when I should ignore and deal with the crying but it’s hard!! I would love to hear some feedback and tips to correct my and there behavior!! I would love to get Sasha to a point where I could pet her without feeling like I’m punishing her!! Don’t get me wrong, she is at times tolerable of my affection!! At night she may lay in the bed and I’ll rub her belly and scratch her ears..I’ll always say “good girl Sasha” and tell her I love her in a calm voice so I don’t spook her!! Should I reward with a treat? And when you say make them work for all food are you saying for meals as well as treats,or just treats? I would also like to know what would be the appropriate amount of “work” for a small treat? Will a sit,lay down, now jump for the treat work? And for the meal will it be safe to say going out and throwing a ball in the yard and just making them run, or even let them play nicely with each other be something I should consider rewardable? I’m so sorry I have so many questions all at once!! I just really want to raise my babies right they are seriously my world!! I want them to be happy, safe and well trained!! I’m so grateful for you and the info you gave me already I would love to know more!!
    Thank you so much!!
    Sending love and positive light your way

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    • shibashake says

      August 8, 2015 at 4:50 pm

      How long have you had both dogs? Are they both from the same breeder or are they adopted? Was the breeder registered with the UKC? What were conditions like at the breeder’s place?

      I have never lived with a Klee Kai, so I am not too familiar with their temperament. My Husky breeder tells me that they can be aloof and skittish around new people. Here is part of their temperament description from Wikipedia-

      Alaskan Klee Kai can be standoffish and cautious around unfamiliar individuals. Because of their inherently reserved disposition in the presence of strangers, continual socialization throughout an Alaskan Klee Kai’s life is highly encouraged.

      ASPCA article on puppy socialization.
      More on dog socialization.

      I do people desensitization exercises with my dogs to help them be more relaxed around new people. I also do touch desensitization exercises with my dogs, to help them be more relaxed with handling and grooming. This helped to increase my Shiba Inu’s tolerance for handling, but he is a more aloof dog by nature, and is therefore less affectionate than my two Huskies.

      I set up a fixed routine for my dogs and consistent house rules. In this way, my dogs know exactly what to expect from each other, what to expect from me, and what I expect from them in return. This helps to create certainty and certainty helps to reduce stress and conflicts.

      More on how I set up structure and teach my puppy self-control.
      More on how I deal with puppy biting.

      I make sure to only reinforce/reward good behaviors, and to be very consistent with my rules. When my dog shows an undesirable behavior, I no-mark, and then I tell him what to do instead. For example, if my dog starts to jump on me when I am preparing his food, I no-mark, and then I ask him for a Sit (pre-trained). When he sits, I can reward him for the good behavior, thereby reinforcing something positive. However, if I give my dog food when he whines or jumps, then I will only encourage him to whine and jump more in the future.
      More on how I train my puppy.
      More on how I handle meal-time with my dogs.

      My dogs work for all of their food (regular meals and treats). I make sure not to over-feed, so if I am giving them a certain amount of treats, I reduce their other food by a proper amount so that I keep their daily food intake consistent. I reward my dogs for simple commands, for following house rules, for walking well, for playing well, for being calm, etc. It does not have to be for something that I explicitly asked them to do at the current moment. However, the behavior needs to be something desirable, so that I am reinforcing/encouraging a positive behavior. Whatever food is left-over I put in a safe interactive food toy so my dog works for that too.
      More on how I implement The Nothing in Life is Free program.

      Finally, there are certain behavior conditioning (training) principles but dog behavior is also very context dependent. Each dog and situation are going to be different. The dog’s temperament, routine, environment, past experiences, and more will all play a role in defining his behavior. Therefore, I always make sure to listen to my dog first and foremost, and to adjust my training methods to suit my dog and my situation. Something that works well for me and my dog, may not work as well for someone else and vice versa.

      When Shiba Sephy was young and I was having problems with some of his behaviors, I got help from several professional trainers. In this way, the trainer can observe my dog within the context of his regular routine and environment. He can also help me with reading my dog’s body language, with timing, technique, as well as management.
      https://www.aspca.org/pet-care/virtual-pet-behaviorist/finding-professional-help
      https://apdt.com/pet-owners/choosing-a-trainer/

  4. Heather says

    June 5, 2015 at 11:31 pm

    I have a lab husky mix and a Siberian husky and I don’t know how to go about and let them play and be together. I have never had more than one dog before so I don’t really know how they are suppose to respond to each other. One is a bit older while the other is still a pup and I am afraid that they aren’t going to like each other and something bad will happen. What should I do?

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    • shibashake says

      June 6, 2015 at 9:54 pm

      With my dogs, I set up clear dog-to-dog interaction rules, I supervise very closely, and I use management equipment (leashes, gates, etc.) as necessary, to make sure that all dogs and people are safe. In this way, all my dogs know exactly what to expect from each other, what to expect from me, and what I expect from them in return.

      Rules, structure, and consistency are very important for my dogs. They help to create certainty, and certainty helps to reduce stress and conflicts.
      How I introduce a new dog into my household.

      However, dog behavior is very context dependent, and there is even more complexity with multiple dogs. Therefore, when in doubt, I always get help from a good professional trainer/behaviorist.
      https://www.aspca.org/pet-care/virtual-pet-behaviorist/finding-professional-help

  5. Jstew says

    May 24, 2015 at 9:17 pm

    My chihuahua mutt is a very sweet and obedient dog. He is very energetic as well, but he has an off-leash problem. Any time I take his leash off, he will run off to other dogs or people. He will sometimes come back, but that is only on rare occasions. What should I do? You seem to have no problems with your dogs.

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    • shibashake says

      May 27, 2015 at 5:32 pm

      These two articles have some good information on recall training-
      https://www.aspca.org/pet-care/virtual-pet-behaviorist/dog-behavior/teaching-your-dog-come-when-called
      http://drsophiayin.com/blog/entry/teaching_rover_to_race_to_you_on_cue

      I walk my dogs on-leash when we are at the park. My Huskies have really high prey drive so if they see a squirrel or deer, they are off like a shot. It is very difficult to trump their very strong instinct to give chase.

  6. Veronika B says

    April 15, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    Dear Shibashake,

    your articles amaze me and I love the positive approach that you use in your training methods. I would really like to ask you for a piece of advice, please. I have a 2 year old Golden Retriever. He is super energetic, really sociable (runs to every dog he sees) and is very smell-driven (when he catches the sense of something in the grass, it’s like he doesn’t hear me).

    I really need to teach him more reliable off-leash obedience… When we’re alone he listens well and comes on command, this get’s a little worse when he notices an interesting smell (takes him a few seconds and maybe two recalls until he comes, but this isn’t such a big problem). The problem is, when we are in the forest and i let him off leash, he sprints after almost any dog that he sees. We’ve had an incident last week where a dog attacked him because he wouldn’t stop and return to me, he would just sprint towards the dog.

    This happens sometimes when we are coming close to our front yard gate and he still wants to say hi to the dog down the street behind his fence, again, he just starts sprinting down and won’t listen when I call him back.

    I guess you could say the main problem is a weak recall. Maybe I didn’t focus on this enough when he was a pup. Would you suggest that I put him on a long leash? However with this method I feel like, doesn’t the dog know when he’s on the leash and when he isn’t, and when we eventually go out without the leash, he’ll know he can run and nothing will stop him? Also, how long would I have to have him on this long leash before I could let him off leash? (I really need him to let his energy out, and on the leash, it’s difficult…. get’s tangled up everywhere all the time and he can’t run around and sniff around..) I hope it’s not too late at 2 years…

    I don’t want to use punishment, I really want to work on a strong bond with my Arnie, just like you describe. Thank you so much in advance if you get to read this long comment.

    Regards,
    Veronika

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    • shibashake says

      April 18, 2015 at 10:38 pm

      Thank you Veronika. πŸ˜€

      Yeah, my Shiba Inu was also very dog focused especially when he was young. One thing that worked pretty well with him in terms of recall was to walk him with other dogs. One of our neighbors had a couple of dogs that Sephy absolutely loved, so when we went to the park with them, Sephy would be following our neighbor’s dogs. When she calls back her dogs, Sephy would come along too.

      We later got a dog walker to do group dog walks with Sephy and that was also what she did for getting him to come back. The thing though is that we had to call back the dogs early, before we get too near other dogs. Otherwise, he might run to go meet the other dog, so the risk is still there.

      What actually works best with Sephy are structured, small play-groups, with other dogs who also love to play. I do this in an enclosed space in my house, and I supervise closely to make sure that everyone is following play-rules. In this way, Sephy gets to enjoy time with other dogs, he learns good social behaviors, and he has a great positive activity to release his energy.

      As for recall, the important thing is that when I issue the recall command, I need to make sure that my dog comes or if he does not, I need to have a way to get him back quickly and effectively. I need to be very consistent about that, or else my dog will learn that recall means sometimes come and sometimes not.

      Also, recall is very dependent upon competing stimuli. If there is something out there that is a very strong and all consuming stimulus, then I will need to find something even stronger to deter my dog. This is why dogs with high prey drive usually get walked on-leash, because when they see prey animals, they switch to instinct mode, and it becomes difficult to get them to break focus on the prey animal. My Huskies have high prey drive so I always walk them on-leash when in unenclosed spaces.

      This article from the ASPCA has a good list of recall training techniques and also what to expect-
      https://www.aspca.org/pet-care/virtual-pet-behaviorist/dog-behavior/teaching-your-dog-come-when-called

  7. Amy says

    March 10, 2015 at 4:06 am

    Hi
    I have just read your article and am finding it very interesting and helpful.
    I have just got a german shepherd puppy he is only 9 weeks old today.
    But i live with my parents and they have a 2 year old german shepherd and a 14 year old westie highland terrier.
    I work monday to friday. i leave the house at 7:15am and don’t get home until 6:15pm. my parents have agreed to help with my puppy whilst i’m at work.
    I don’t plan to stay living at my parents house for too long and would like a place of my own for me and Storm (my puppy) but i am very worried that he will bond to my parents and their dogs more than me as i am not home as often as they are. Is this something I should be worried about? My dad is feeding him when he feeds the other dogs at the moment and i have read in some places that you should be the only one to feed your dog to build the bond. Is this true?
    I can’t walk him yet as he is waiting his 2nd vaccin…but i’m so worried about the future…but should I be?

    Thank you Amy

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    • shibashake says

      March 11, 2015 at 5:05 pm

      I try to get everyone in the household to bond with my dogs. In this way, if I get busy, sick, or need to travel, there are other people who my dog trusts, who can take care of him. He will be relaxed and comfortable with them, and will not get stressed and anxious just because I am busy at work or temporarily unavailable.

      I also socialize my dogs well and they know my neighbors, and get along well with the dog lovers in my neighborhood. If anything unexpected should happen, I know I can also count on my neighbors to help with my dogs.

      I believe that it is good for a dog to enjoy people and to bond with multiple people. My Huskies especially, love being with people. Just because my dog bonds with others does not detract from his love for me or from my love for him. As long as he is happy, I am happy.
      http://shibashake.com/dog/do-our-dogs-love-us-unconditionally

  8. Anonymous says

    December 14, 2014 at 3:32 pm

    I want to build a bond with my dog because I just lost my first dog your web page helped me

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  9. Monica says

    August 15, 2014 at 2:00 pm

    I absolutely love what you have shared with us in regards to raising/loving/training and caring for your buddies! I have a Sib. Husky pup. Her name is Lucy. We brought her home when she was 8 weeks old and she was initially very timid, and perhaps even distrustful. I attributed this to the nature of huskies, as I’ve only been used to abundant affection that labs give.

    But my little Lucy warmed up and I do believe we have gained her trust. She is rambunctious and energetic and loves to run! Your site has really helped me train her, as well. She is very good on the leash (though still a curious puppy). The redlight/greenlight method that you outlined works so well. She sits without my command when she starts to tug on the leash.

    Anyway, I just wanted to express my deep appreciation for the time and energy you take to share your experiences.

    Monica

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    • shibashake says

      August 16, 2014 at 7:42 pm

      Thank you so much Monica. Lucy sounds wonderful and adorable, and I am so glad she is with a terrific family. Reading about a happy dog always makes me very happy. πŸ˜€

      Big hugs to Lucy!

  10. doglover1223 says

    June 28, 2014 at 9:36 pm

    hey i’m very young but i’m very mature also, anyways i might be getting a dog
    a mutt or mut how ever you spell it and his name is taz he used to have a home but they abused him sadly and such. Now we might adopt him, but i dont know how to build a bond as a kid. i read and read and watch so much and as much as i can but nothing seems to help. untill i saw your website and get truly inspired. my question is again that im young and i dont know how to make this bond please help me out time is running out and i need a answer.
    thank you
    πŸ™‚

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  11. nicole says

    May 16, 2014 at 6:43 pm

    I loved your article and found it very inspiring. I have a question though. I have a 2 year old german shepherd who is very anxious and walks are always stressful as everything freaks her out. she is always pulling on the leash, especially after cars, squirrels and other dogs. how do I correct this in order to have a loose leash. my hands ache! I have tried many leashes, collars jerking the leash, obdeiance, everything, please help

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    • shibashake says

      May 20, 2014 at 2:56 pm

      everything freaks her out. she is always pulling on the leash, especially after cars, squirrels and other dogs.

      Does she try to pull towards those things or run away from them? Have you had her since puppyhood? When did she start showing this behavior? Is she trying to get at squirrels because of prey-drive/over-excitement, or is she pulling away from them?

      For my dog’s anxiety issues, I try to target the source of the anxiety.
      1. I start small and go in small steps.
      The key here is to help my dog build confidence by maximizing positive experiences and minimizing negative ones. For walks, I start training in a very quiet, low stimulus area, where my dog feels very safe. For example, I may start in my backyard or even inside the house. Once we are good with this, I *very slowly* increase the environmental stimulus, for example, by first walking him in a very quiet area with very few people. At the start, I may also do shorter, but more frequent walks.

      2. I do desensitization exercises.
      http://shibashake.com/dog/how-to-calm-a-fearful-reactive-dog

      3. I set up a fixed routine and manage my dog’s environment.
      I set up a consistent set of rules and a very fixed routine. This creates certainty, and certainty helps to reduce stress and anxiety. I also make sure to always control my own energy. My Shiba Inu, especially, is very sensitive to the energy of the people around him. If he senses that I am stressed, worried, or fearful, he will get that way himself and his behavior will become more extreme. Once I controlled my own energy, and became more decisive, my dog’s behavior also improved.

      More on dog anxiety.

      Note however that, dog behavior is very context dependent. A given behavior depends a lot on the dog’s temperament, surrounding environment, past experiences, routine, etc. Because of this, it can be helpful to visit with a good professional trainer who can observe our dog and his behaviors as it happens. I visited with a bunch of trainers during Shiba Sephy’s difficult period. πŸ™‚
      http://www.apdt.com/pet-owners/choosing-a-trainer/

  12. BEAUTYBABE says

    December 17, 2009 at 6:58 pm

    Hi Shibashake,

    This was truly a wonderful and touching article, that clearly shows how much you love, no adore your beautiful dogs. I was truly hooked onto this story from the first line to the very end of your stories and I just love the accompanying beautiful pictures you had of the dogs. They are amazing photographs and show so clearly the love between all of you. What a special treat for all who have read this hub.It is always wonderful to have such a great bond with your pets, especially dogs, but so sad when we have to say goodbye. That is such a hard thing to do, isn’t it. We lost the last of our two beautiful little dogs this year. Bobbie and Suzie were both silkies, and we had bought them only a little bit apart. Bobbie was the first to arrive on the scene at 13 weeks and then we got Suzie or Snookie, as she was affectionately known by me, because she was my little girl. She got a very large tumour in her little bladder, the vet said it was the biggest that they had seen in a little dog her size. As an act of kindness, she wa euthenased before she got too sick because we loved her so much and couldn’t bear to see her suffering.She was 11 yrs. old. Bobbie, on the other hand, was getting very old, he would have been 15 in April, this year,so you can see, it was the kindest thing to do, as he was showing signs that he may have had some neurological disorder or even a brain tumour, the vet said.

    We miss them terribly. I have done a hub about them if you would like to have a look and I would like to become a follower of yours. I wish you all the best for Christmas and the New Year love and Gold Bless from Beautybabe.

    Reply
    • shibashake says

      December 24, 2009 at 6:59 pm

      Hello BeautyBabe,

      Thanks for your beautiful words on the hubs. Yeah my dogs really helped me through a lot of things and I love them very much.

      “so sad when we have to say goodbye. That is such a hard thing to do, isn’t it.”

      Yes. My Siberian is a three-legged dog so she will probably have a shorter lifespan. But she is so amazing and such a go-go-go girl. She truly teaches me to enjoy the present more and leave tomorrow for tomorrow. She will always hop up to me and put her head on my lap while giving me lots of licks.
      Everything is much better after that. πŸ˜€

    • Anonymous says

      June 23, 2014 at 7:38 am

      I’m getting a new dog today and this website is giving me a lot to put in my head. I want to build a good bond with my dog but what if he doesn’t like me? What should I do? I messed up a lot from my old dog and I don’t want to do that with my new dog? Oh and how do you get a calm shiba to be play full

    • shibashake says

      June 24, 2014 at 5:02 pm

      I had a very difficult time with my Shiba in the beginning. One thing I learned from the experience, is to focus on my love for my dog and not worry too much about his love for me. I love my dogs, and whether they love me in return or not, I will still love them.

      Once I started focusing on doing what is best for my dog, things really started to turn around. Here is more on my early experiences with Sephy.

      A few more things that I learned from Sephy.

  13. Eternal Evolution says

    August 21, 2009 at 6:57 pm

    Yet again another great hub. I always enjoy reading them

    Reply
  14. Brenda Scully says

    June 21, 2009 at 6:55 pm

    very good and lots of detailed information, which I have found very helpful

    Reply
    • shibashake says

      June 21, 2009 at 6:56 pm

      Thanks Brenda. Glad it was helpful.

  15. brad4l says

    June 21, 2009 at 6:53 pm

    These are some great tips and I think bonding with your dog is essential to having a happy dog. My dog loves to play fetch and this is a great source of exercise for her as well. When I get the chance, taking her to a lake is great fun, because she will swim out to get the ball. This is like a super work out…

    Reply
    • shibashake says

      June 21, 2009 at 6:54 pm

      Hey Brad, the lake outing sounds like a lot of fun. I used to take my Shiba Inu to the lake, but he is not much of a water dog. He really wants to go in to chase the ducks but I don’t think he likes getting wet – lol. Your dog is very lucky to have you, and vice versa.

  16. James A Watkins says

    June 21, 2009 at 6:52 pm

    Great article. My little fella and I love each other very much. We show it and we know it. Of course, he absolutely knows who the leader of the pack is. πŸ˜€

    Reply
  17. Nancy's Niche says

    June 21, 2009 at 6:50 pm

    Another great article with pictures to support it’s intent…Good job!

    Reply
    • shibashake says

      June 21, 2009 at 6:51 pm

      Thanks Nancy! Good to see ya. Yeah the digital camera is one of the best inventions of our time. Gotta love technology and dogs!

  18. Tom Rubenoff says

    June 21, 2009 at 6:49 pm

    I think you are probably a great pack leader, Shibashake!

    Reply
  19. quicksand says

    June 21, 2009 at 6:48 pm

    I have heard of the “pack instinct” and “marking of territory”Β  by dogs. Quite interesting too. What caught my eye here is the water hose game. I have some experience in it, having played the game myself and emerging victor of course! I would like to write about it in the near future.
    Cheers n take care!

    Reply

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